All Work is the Lord’s Work

We’ve all been there: feeling like you just can’t possibly do ONE MORE load of laundry, clean up after ONE MORE messy kid, or go to your dead-end job ONE MORE day. Yet you keep doing it out of duty and obligation, day after day, feeling a lack of joy and purpose. Work is hard, for stay-at-home parents and working folk alike. But that doesn’t have to mean you can’t find joy in it. What if you could change the way you looked at work so that it was a joyful opportunity rather than an endless burden? I recently had to go through this same attitude adjustment too. I was getting into a rut of feeling like the endless housework and vocational work were holding me back from doing the work I really wanted to be doing: the Lord’s work. But let me tell you a secret: all honest work is the Lord’s work. 

Think about it: if only certain professions or types of work were “God’s work,” God would only use people in certain professions to do His work on earth. But we see from the Bible that that’s simply not true. He called shepherds and kings, tent-makers and priests, slaves and tax collectors. He called men and women, husbands and wives and singles. Colossians 12:17 says, “Whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.” God commands us to take care of our homes as well as take care of the poor, and to love our spouses as well as have compassion on orphans and widows. Ministry is anything we do in Jesus’ name with a thankful and compassionate heart– all of our work. 

When I adopted this attitude, I was able to find so much more joy and purpose in my day-to-day tasks. My workday is pretty repetitive and pretty much the same day to day, but when I started thinking about how God placed me at this job to do His work, it no longer felt repetitive. I started thinking about my coworkers who I have the opportunity to talk about my faith to, the patients I serve in our clinic, and the personal growth God was able to work in me when I stopped just going through the motions. I started thanking Him for the good things about my job, my ability to help provide for my household, and how God helped the company I work for be successful. I started getting more excited to go to work each day and see what opportunities it may bring. And I just had more joy and energy for my work overall. 

The same thing happened when I applied this mindset to my work at home. When I started to view dishes and laundry and meal prep as opportunities to do God’s work of homemaking, hospitality, and provision for my family, it seemed a lot less menial and more meaningful. I started praying or listening to worship music while I did chores, thanking God for the role of being a wife and serving my husband by working around the house.

The bottom line is: God’s work is not just volunteering at church, going on a mission trip, or doing something that would be considered “ministry” to others. God’s work is choosing to do your paid job in a way that honors Him and points your colleagues to the Gospel. God’s work is cleaning so that your house can become a home for your family and a comfortable place for friends to gather. God’s work is cooking and doing the dishes so as to nourish your family in a way that fuels them to do their own good work during the day. God’s work is serving your spouse to live out His commands for a marriage that honors Him. It’s all these daily tasks and anything else you can think of that is honest and honoring to Him. And God cares about all these little tasks and the attitude of your heart when you do them. It matters now, and it matters for eternity. What work has God called you to do today?

What Is Sabbath Rest?

If you’ve been around Christian spheres for any amount of time, you’ve probably heard talk of the Sabbath, or Sabbath Rest. Usually it’s in reference to Sunday, and how it should be kept holy because it was on the seventh day that God rested after creating the world. But is Sabbath actually relevant to our lives today?

For the ancient Israelites, Sabbath was a command from God and a mandatory part of their weekly routine. They were to do absolutely no work at all– not even make food. It was a time for rest and worship, and it was a reminder that God provided for their needs; they did not provide for themselves out of their own productivity. The world kept turning and God kept providing even though they stopped working for a day. What a concept!

Today, Sabbath usually looks a little different. It’s ideally a 24-hour period (not necessarily on Sunday) where you focus on resting, connecting with other people, and worshiping God. It can even be a different day of the week every week if you work a job that doesn’t have a consistent schedule. It’s the heart behind it that really matters– a heart that desires to honor God by obeying His command to rest.

I started implementing a Sabbath rest in my own life a few months ago, right after I got married. My husband grew up in a family that consistently set aside Sundays to go to church and/or Bible study and then just rest and not do anything productive, so he was used to the practice. He could also tell that it would do me some good, as I tend to over-obsess about to-do lists and fill my weekends with tasks that could probably wait until next week. So we have made a habit of starting out Sunday at church and then just relaxing– not running errands or cleaning the apartment. It doesn’t mean that we don’t cook or do the dishes, but it does mean that we slow down and take more meaningful time to rest and connect with God and each other. And so far, God has always provided time to do the things I would have done on Sunday if I wasn’t resting. 

I’ll be honest, the first few months of practicing Sabbath were hard– it takes quite a bit of planning to accomplish. I have to make sure I get to the grocery store on Saturday so I’m not tempted to go on Sunday, and I have to plan ahead to get any tasks done by Saturday night that need to be completed before the next week. And then there’s the part about how I have a hard time relaxing because I feel a constant urge to be productive. But, slowly, this practice of intentional rest has been teaching me to not feel guilty about not being productive. We are not created to just produce labor until we die– we are created to enjoy life, to rest, and then to do our work from that place of rest, relying on God for strength. 

I’ve found that in the past few months I’ve started to look forward to Sundays because I know I’ll have downtime where I don’t need to try to accomplish anything. It’s such a relief for my heart that beats to get things done on the other six days of the week. After church, I use some of the time to write in my journal and read my Bible, and the rest I spend relaxing at home with my husband or with friends and family. And I always find myself more rested and ready to tackle the week ahead than I did before I practiced Sabbath. I hope and pray you will try it too. I promise you will see blessings in your life because of it. 

Wedding Planning 101

Hello everyone!

As promised a few weeks ago, I wanted to share some wedding planning tips with anyone who might be engaged or helping plan a wedding. There’s a ton of wedding advice out there already, but there were a few tips that I found really helpful. My husband and I did not want a super fancy wedding; we had a more casual, outdoorsy celebration, and we focused more on the people than the decor or the food. So if you want a more laid-back wedding and don’t want to break the bank, this is for you!

Without further ado, my top 3 tips for wedding planning:

  1. I know this might sound cliche, but… make a planning schedule before you start! You don’t have to stick to it exactly, but it will help you feel more in control and ensure you aren’t forgetting things. One of the best things I did was to schedule the planning to be complete one week before the wedding so that I wasn’t rushing around taking care of last minute details right before the big day. Instead, I was able to relax and just let myself be excited instead of stressed. I highly recommend using’s wedding planning checklist; it is very thorough, it helps you determine what things need to happen early on and what can wait, and it’s free! It’s also free to create a personalized wedding website through them (complete with online RSVP so you don’t have to send RSVP cards!) and so much more. I’ll link the planning checklist at the bottom of this page so you can check it out for yourself!  
  2. The best piece of advice I was given before I started wedding planning was to plan your reception to be fun for your guests. They are there for longer than you will be, especially if you have a cocktail hour at the reception venue. Plus, you won’t remember all the fun stuff because you’ll be busy cutting the cake and talking to everyone, but they will– it’s the highlight of their night. We had a photo booth, which was a big hit, along with a bonfire outside and dancing. (We also made our guest favors little s’more kits so everyone had s’more stuff for the bonfire.) We got so many compliments that our reception was one of the most fun ones people had been to, and they loved that there were things to do for those who don’t love dancing. This is the one day that all your friends and family are in the same place at the same time, and it made me so happy to see everyone having a good time.
  3. The reception may be more focused on your guests, but when it comes to the ceremony, that’s all about YOU! Your friends and family are there to witness your vows and support you, so you can make your ceremony exactly how you want it. We were intentional about having a Chrisitan ceremony to show our guests what we believe and hopefully even inspire already married couples to think over the meaning of their marriage again. But each element was still focused on us and what we wanted to do together. Pick the music you like, write your own vows if you want, choose an officiant who will display your values, do a unity ceremony or don’t: the choice is yours! The ceremony is short compared to the reception, but it is really the most important part, since you’ll walk in as fiances and walk out as husband and wife!

One final bonus piece of advice, especially for Christians: don’t spend so much time focusing on wedding planning that you forget to prepare for your actual marriage. Weddings are fun and memorable, and your day should reflect that. But at the end of the day, your goal is to get married, and STAY married. So talk about the hard things, go through some premarital counseling, and maybe read a book or two on marriage (I’ll leave some good titles below). Put some effort into investing in your marriage so your beautiful day remains a happy memory long into the future; after all, your wedding day is one of the best days of your life!

Link to the Knot’s wedding planning list:

Recommended books on marriage:

“The Meaning of Marriage” by Tim Keller

“Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts” by Les and Leslie Parrott

“Sacred Marriage” by Gary Thomas

My Biggest Lesson of 2022

Have you ever been in a season of life where you felt stuck? Where you knew something needed to change, but you weren’t sure what? I felt that way for the first half of 2022. Looking back, I learned a big lesson about how God brings about change in our lives.

Eight months ago, I quit my job as a Lab Tech and started a new one as a Lab Supervisor in a medical clinic. But for several months before I quit, I was wrestling with God about whether it was really time for me to leave yet. It seems silly now; the reasons to leave far outweighed any reason to stay. But I felt I had not yet learned all the lessons I needed to learn at that job. What I didn’t realize was that God didn’t need specific circumstances to teach me those lessons; He could teach me the same thing at my new job too. But I’d always looked at experiences like jobs as a means for God to teach me something, and as soon as I learned the lesson, I could move on to whatever was next. It turns out that’s not always true. That brought me to this question: does God ONLY want to change me inwardly, or does He care about my circumstances too? 

As Christians we’re told to be grateful in all circumstances (see Paul’s teaching in Philippians 4). However, I don’t think this means that we have to love all circumstances. I absolutely believe that in Christ we have all we need, wherever we are. Even missionaries in a jail cell in a foreign country have all they need (this is the situation Paul is writing from in the above passage). But I don’t think this means that all circumstances equally allow us to thrive. Here’s how I know.

The book of Exodus in the Bible tells us about God’s chosen nation, Israel, being enslaved in Egypt for about 400 years. I haven’t been a slave in Egypt before, but I can tell you with certainty: they were not thriving. Had God abandoned them? No, not at all. We’ll get there in a moment. They had all they needed in Him. But their circumstances were not allowing them to thrive in the ways that we were made to. 

Fast forward to the end of the book: God parts the Red Sea, frees Israel from Egypt, and brings them out into the desert en route to a new Promised Land. This tells me that God did not care ONLY about His people having the bare minimum they needed to survive. No, God cared about their physical circumstances enough to prepare for them a Promised Land flowing with milk and honey (Exodus 3:8)– a land where they would be able to thrive. New circumstances won’t solve ALL our problems, but they can definitely be a doorway to greater thriving. 

So, we’ve established that God does indeed care about our circumstances, and that some situations do allow us to thrive more than others. Now we need to come back around to the part about God wanting to change us inwardly, because this part is true as well. When Israel got to the Promised Land, they didn’t just enter in and then thrive for the rest of their lives. It was actually quite the opposite. God gave them clear instructions as to how they were to live in this new land: how to worship Him, how to treat others living in the land, and how to regularly thank God for bringing them there– and they failed miserably. This tells me that He cared deeply about their growth and inward change as well as their circumstances. But here’s this truth again– God does not always require us to earn good gifts by continued good behavior. He just gives good gifts because He is a good God. When Israel failed to trust God, He did not immediately take away their Promised Land. But He did let surrounding enemy nations invade and slowly chip away at their new life. He let the natural course of things happen, because that was what Israel chose– and in doing so, they lost their closeness with God. All this to say: God does care deeply about our circumstances and wants us to be in a place where we can thrive. But He also requires that wherever we are, we remain faithful to Him, because He wants to change us into more of His image. 

For me, God didn’t need me to change BEFORE He gave me the good gift of a better circumstance where I could better thrive. But He did continue to change me once I was in my new job, because He cares about growing me into the image of Christ too. Better circumstances won’t solve all our problems– it is wise to be wary of that lie. But a healthier workplace did reduce my stress, and I started growing in greater ways than I had been at my old job. So when God leads us to a new Promised Land, we should thank Him for the good gift that we could never earn. And then we should seek to grow and transform more into the image of Christ, so we can glorify Him both outwardly in our situation and inwardly in our hearts.

Life Update: January 2023

Hello everyone!

I am happy to say that after almost a year without posting anything, I am ready to get back into regular blog posts. It’s been a busy year, so I thought I’d start out with a little life update. Especially for readers that don’t know me personally, I hope this post gives you a little glimpse into who I am.

2022 was a year of many changes for me, but the biggest and most important is that on September 23, I got married! My husband, Matt, and I got engaged at the end of 2021 and spent most of this year planning our wedding. It was crazy busy but also super fun, and I’m naturally a planner, so I enjoyed it. But I’m loving all of the free time that I have now that it’s over. Our wedding day was perfect, and we were able to take a week-long honeymoon to northern Michigan right afterwards. We had an amazing time visiting Mackinac Island, Pictured Rocks, Tahquamenon Falls, and more. So you can look out for some posts on wedding planning tips as well as navigating dating, engagement, and marriage soon 🙂

In April of 2022, five months before the wedding, I made another major change and started a new job. I had been at my previous job (a lab tech in a medical lab) for almost three years. I wasn’t learning anything anymore, and on top of that, changes in management meant that there would be no path upward in that company anytime soon. So I decided to add job searching to my already busy life of wedding planning. To my surprise, within a week of starting to look, I had accepted an offer! (Praise God!) I started my new job at the beginning of April, and I’m loving it so far. I now work for a medical clinic in Grand Rapids that started up their own lab, similar to the one I worked in before. When I got there, it was an empty room; I got to help them get started, design the processes and workflows (which was super exciting for the engineer in me), and then become the supervisor when it was all set up. We’ve been running for about six months now, which is awesome. 

With our new marriage also came a move to a new city and a new apartment. I’m from Holland, Michigan, which is where I’d been living up until now. But Holland was a 45 minute commute to my job and Matt’s, so we decided to move closer to where we work. I was able to move in about six weeks before the wedding, which made it easier once we got married and Matt moved in. We’re all settled now and getting used to our routine as newlyweds.

To say it’s been an eventful year would be an understatement– new marriage, new job, new apartment, new car, and new name (I finally got that legally changed a couple weeks ago) all in the span of six months– but it has been an amazing year. I am so looking forward to a slower season with (hopefully) no big changes for a while. I can’t wait to return to writing and connecting with you all; it’s been a dream of mine for a long time to write and share what I’m learning about life, and also to write and share music. I hope to make 2023 the year I start to see that dream come to life!

The Importance of True Rest

Raise your hand if you need a vacation. I know I would love one! I was lucky to have a week off between Christmas and New Years last month– 10 whole days in a row where I didn’t have to go to work. But, to my dismay, I didn’t feel like I actually got to take a break until the last two days. That got me thinking about how I need to relax more often, and how much stress it causes when I don’t set time aside to rest. Even when I do set aside time to just “do nothing,” it doesn’t always end up being restful. 

I’m sure I’m not the only one with these problems; we live in a society that makes us feel like we need to be constantly on the move. But I’m convinced that true rest is out there, and that it really is possible to feel refreshed and renewed even in the midst of a busy life. But how do we get there? To figure out how to find true rest, I looked at what God has to say about rest in His Word. 

I recently read through the book of Exodus in the Bible, and it has some great lessons on rest. If you’re not familiar with the story, the ancient nation of Israel, God’s chosen nation, was stuck in slavery in Egypt for 400 years before God rescued them, parted the Red Sea, and led them out of Egypt toward the Promised Land. One of the first instructions God gave the newly freed Israelites was to take a Sabbath, or a full day of rest, once a week. They are commanded to not work on that day, and God provides extra food for them so they don’t even have to gather food on that day. To understand why this Sabbath command is so significant, we have to realize that just days earlier, the Israelites were slaves, working long hours, seven days a week. They couldn’t imagine going an entire day without working. God knew that, so He instituted the Sabbath to force them to learn to rest. 

But why did God do that in the first place? Why is it so important to learn to rest? Because we were created for it! The book of Genesis tells us that before the Fall, humanity existed in a state of perfect rest, their needs perfectly provided for, in the Garden of Eden. In the above story about the Exodus from Egypt, God is trying to restore that rest to the Israelites. In fact, the “Promised Land” God is leading them toward is actually referred to as “God’s rest” (Hebrews 3-4), a place where they would no longer have to struggle just to survive. We were created to be in relationship with God and to worship God, and God knows we can’t do that if we are consumed with work 24/7. So He made a way for us to live as He intended by giving us the rest we need to enjoy life with Him. 

One of the most important things we need to realize in order to enjoy true rest is that because God is the one that gives us rest, we can’t find it anywhere else– the world isn’t going to give us a break, and neither is the devil. The good news is that God PROMISES us that rest, so we can count on it. We often think that we need to work ourselves to the bone to provide for ourselves and our families, but ultimately, God is the one who does the providing. I heard a pastor say once that if you choose not to take a Sabbath rest, you are saying that you are a slave to something other than God. We may not be slaves in a foreign nation, but we are often slaves to things like money, success, and productivity. But when we are able to trust God to provide even when we take time off to be with Him and rest, we can stop being stressed out by the idea of ceasing to be productive. And I always find that I’m better able to get work done after I’ve spent time resting for a while. 

So, now that we know where rest comes from and why it’s important, how do we get there? It starts by making time each day to rest in God’s presence, which we do by praying and reading the Bible. It also looks like keeping the Sabbath command by setting aside one day a week (it doesn’t have to be Sunday) to stop working. It can be a challenge to plan for at first, but it’s worth it. The key to truly resting once you set aside these times is to not only seek the kind of rest your body needs, but the kind of rest your soul needs– and your soul doesn’t need to binge Netflix or spend hours on Instagram. Your soul needs time with its Maker, to get to know Him better, to seek His will, to worship Him, and to remember that He is really all that matters.

So this year, make it a priority to slow down and truly rest. Set the to-do list aside and open your Bible instead. Try meditating on the verse below, and remember that God never intended you to work yourself to the bone; He intended you to live with a healthy rhythm of both meaningful work and resting in His presence. It’s time we take it seriously and start living fulfilled instead of depleted.

“One thing I ask from the Lord, this only do I seek: that I may dwell in the house of the Lord for all the days of my life, to gaze on the beauty of the Lord and to seek him in his temple.” (Psalm 27:4)

It’s Not Too Late

Does anyone else feel like they didn’t accomplish any of their goals in 2021? Like you’re in the same spot as you were 365 days ago? As I’ve been reflecting on the past year, I’ve had to come to terms with the fact that a lot of what I said I wanted to do in the beginning of 2021 has been left undone. Don’t get me wrong, it’s been a great year– some of the highlights for me include participating in a one-year women’s Bible study/mentoring group that taught me a lot about living a Godly life, and getting engaged to my best friend (wedding coming in Fall 2022!) I also met one goal in starting this blog, though it hasn’t been as consistent as I’d hoped. But as I turned back in my journal to the start of 2021, where I wrote that this year I wanted to slow down, prioritize my relationship with God as well as relationships with friends, and feel content with where I am in God’s calling on my life, I realized that I still want all those things. I don’t feel like I made much progress in those areas. 

I think a lot of goals got placed on the back burner this year because Covid challenges got people stuck in survival mode. It has been a difficult year for sure, and it’s easy to feel stuck. But be encouraged; as we go into 2022, know that it is not too late to meet your goals, pursue your passions, and follow the calls God has placed on your life. 

In Isaiah 55:11, God says “[my word] will not return to me empty, but it will accomplish what I desire and achieve the purpose for which I sent it.” God’s words do not return to Him empty, which means that when He says something, it will come to pass. He does not take back the words He speaks. This means:

  • If you, like me, went into 2021 (or even 2020!) wanting to claim God’s promise of new life, if you needed to claim His promise of peace, if you intended to seek God’s guidance through prayer or read the Bible more, it’s not too late. God’s promises do not have expiration dates. As long as you are still breathing, it is not too late to claim God’s promises on your life and turn over a new leaf. 
  • If you sensed a call that God placed on your life, but you haven’t answered the call, it’s not too late to obey. It may look a little different if it’s been some time– I am not God, and I can’t guarantee that the same doors will be open for you now as there were when you first heard Him. But if it was God’s voice you heard, the call is still yours to answer. 
  • And if you are overwhelmed by the divisions and chaos in our world today, this verse means that God’s promises to bring Heaven to earth and eliminate sin for good are still true. God’s purpose has not changed, and Covid has not changed His plans. He will still overcome the world (John 16:33).

So as we go into 2022, take heart; it is not too late to start over. It’s not too late to get yourself out of survival mode and start thriving again. It’s not too late to claim the promises God gives us in His word, and to follow the dreams He has placed in your heart. I’ll be right there with you.

P.S. If you read this, I’d love to hear from you! Drop a comment with some goals you have for 2022!

Love that Drives Out Fear

The past year and a half has been filled with a lot of fear and uncertainty. Things we once took for granted were taken away, and we were left questioning whether we’d ever get back to “normal.” Jobs were lost, families were divided over politics, and weddings were postponed. And if we’re honest, we’ve all fallen prey to the fear that can grasp our hearts in these uncertain times. Will I get another job? Will I be able to provide for my family? Will my family stay healthy?

Fear is a natural emotion, but if we want to live a fulfilling life, we can’t let it rule us. It’s ok to feel the fear and to acknowledge the fear, but we can’t allow ourselves to wallow in it. How do we manage this? As I was wrestling with some uncertainties of my own recently, I came across this Bible verse about fear:

“There is no fear in love, but perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment.” 

–1 John 4:18

Many of us have heard this verse from 1 John, often listed among all the other verses in the Bible that tell us to not be afraid. Verses like “Do not be anxious about anything” (Philippians 4:6). But this verse is different; it tells us WHY we should not be afraid. It explains that God is able to conquer our fear because there is no fear in love. 

Let’s unpack this verse a bit more. “There is no fear in love” is a strong statement; there is NO fear. Not even a little bit. This doesn’t seem realistic in today’s society, because we have a lot of fears when it comes to love: we are afraid that our significant other will get mad and leave us if they find out about our flaws (exactly what John is talking about when he says “fear has to do with punishment”). We worry that our spouses will someday stop loving us. We worry that we’ll never find love. There is a reason that we have these fears about love– we only know human love, and human love is imperfect. What we really fear is not love itself, but the lack of love that we experience when an imperfect person fails us. But God’s love isn’t like that. Let’s continue reading: 

“There is no fear in love…but perfect love drives out fear.” 

The difference between human love and God’s love is that God’s love is perfect. It will never run out, or get bored of us, or find someone else better. It loves every imperfection we have without judgement. It forgives any mistake we make. It is always patient and gives grace when we need it, every time. Perfect love means that we don’t have to be afraid of rejection, because God will never leave us (Deut. 31:8). We don’t have to worry about the future, because God in His love has a plan for us that is to prosper and not harm us (Jeremiah 29:11). We don’t even have to worry about being good enough to be loved, because perfect love keeps no record of wrongs (1 Cor. 13:5). And if the God who knows exactly what the future holds loves us that much, we can trust Him to work things out for our good, because He wants the best for us.

All that is great, but my favorite part is actually the end of the verse, the part that says perfect love DRIVES OUT fear. This doesn’t just imply that when we are loved, it’s a little easier to not be anxious. It means that when we allow the perfect love of God to invade us, there is NO ROOM left for fear. Fear and love cannot both be present in us at the same time. Some versions of the text say that perfect love “casts out” fear; this picture is still the same. When God’s love comes to dwell in us, it casts out all of the fear that resides in us. This is reflected in the end of verse 18: “The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” We cannot be fully loved by God and be continually afraid.

Again, I’m not saying that we will never feel fear. But fear doesn’t have to stay in our hearts if we remind ourselves that we are perfectly loved and cared for by a God who knows the future– and is not afraid of it. So as we continue to navigate this pandemic (and life in general), let’s make room in our hearts for God’s love and let it drive out the fear and uncertainty that’s hiding there. When we start to feel anxious, let’s reach for our Bibles rather than letting our minds focus on what we’re worried about. I promise that there is rest for every anxious heart in the hands of our loving Father.

Living a Fulfilled Life

Most of us live very busy lives. No matter what stage of life we’re in, it seems like there’s always way too many things on our plate. When you’re a student, it’s homework and extracurriculars and part-time jobs. If you’re a parent, there’s always cleaning to do and dinner to prepare and someplace the kids need to be. Many of us work more than 40 hours a week, and when we get to do fun things after work, we’re almost too tired to enjoy them. Yet we are all still chasing a “full life,” as if something is missing. 

The last year has gotten me thinking about this a lot, since for many months covid shut the world down and we were forced to stop. I personally took the time to evaluate what things were taking up my time and whether or not I wanted to keep doing them “after covid.” One of the biggest things I learned was that a full life is not the same as a full schedule. Satisfaction and fulfillment are not necessarily found in more activities, even if those activities are good. We can only do so much without becoming stressed trying to manage it all. And the things we choose to be involved in can change with the seasons of our life. 

So what does a full life look like? First of all, I think the pursuit of a “full” life is missing the target. We shouldn’t be after a full life, but a fulfilled life. In John 10:10 when Jesus says that he “came that we may have life, and have it to the full,” he meant that he wanted us to live a fulfilled life. A fulfilled life is life as God designed it. Think about it; we say that something is fulfilling its purpose when it is doing what it was intended to do. A chair was made for sitting; it fulfills its purpose when someone sits in it. A shoe was made to protect our feet; you wouldn’t wear it on your hand. It’s the same with people; God created us for a specific purpose, so we are most fulfilled when we are living into that purpose. 

What is life as God designed it, then? What is our purpose? For that answer, I’m going to go back to page 1 of the Bible. In chapter 2 of Genesis, God creates the first humans, and they enjoy a worry-free life in the Garden of Eden, walking with God. This is a picture of relationship, of humanity resting in the presence of God and relying on Him. But they aren’t just doing nothing; they’re actually working. Genesis 2:15 says that God placed Adam and Eve in the Garden “to farm it and take care of it.” Genesis 2:18 also says “it is not good for man to be alone,” which tells us that we are meant to live life in community with other people. So from the first two chapters of the Bible, when humanity was living as God intended before the Fall, we can see that we are created to:

1) Enjoy a relationship with God

2) Enjoy relationships with each other 

3) Do some sort of work in cooperation with God. 

Some more insight can be found in the life of Jesus. Jesus’ typical activities included waking up early to spend time with his Father, spending time with his disciples (who were his best friends), doing the work of ministry, and serving those around him in love. I don’t think we’ll live a truly fulfilled life until some of our time and effort is spent serving others as Jesus did. This looks different for different people– some are in vocational ministry, others volunteer on the weekends, and others are in the full-time ministry of parenthood. 

Today, I think living life as God intended looks like daily nurturing our relationship with God, living in peace with those around us, intentionally spending time in community, doing the work we have been given well, obeying God without delay, and giving ourselves freedom to enjoy the good gifts God has given us on this earth. Finally, I believe it includes regular REST. It’s clear that God intended us to rest on a regular basis– in fact, it was a commandment for the Israelites to take a weekly Sabbath. If we don’t rest, the work we do for the rest of the week will wear us down, and it won’t be fulfilling anymore. 

So give yourself permission to take a break. Cut out responsibilities that aren’t a priority right now. Surround yourself with people you love on a regular basis. Meet with God every day. And I think you’ll find that the work and ministry God has for you become less of a burden and more of a joy– a life of fulfillment.

5 Reasons it’s OK to Move Home After Graduation

You finally did it– you walked across that stage, received your diploma, and took pictures in your cap and gown. You’ve said goodbyes to classmates who have become close friends and roommates that have become sisters. You’re preparing to move out of the place that has become your home for four (or more) years. 

I’m going to be completely honest, I had a lot of plans for what would come after graduation, and NONE of them included moving back in with my parents. But a week after the ceremony, I landed a job at a company in my hometown. And just like that, I had a week to pack up my college life and bring it back home. 

I didn’t expect it to be good or easy. I actually expected to stay with my parents for a maximum of three months before I moved out on my own (it’s been a year now). But I learned pretty quickly that not only was living with my parents not that bad, I actually kinda liked it. And, it turns out, a lot of my friends still live with their parents too! It is completely OK to move back home after graduation; in fact, it might be a really good decision for a period of time. Here are five reasons why:

  1. Saving $$$

Perhaps the most obvious, but a really important one: in most cases, your parents will let you live rent-free (or with pretty low rent compared to most apartments). This means saving some serious money that you can put toward paying off student loans, buying a car, or saving for a wedding or house. This is especially important if you don’t have a job and an income quite yet. 

  1. You can ease the transition into adulthood 

Depending whether you lived in an apartment in college or not, you may or may not have superb life skills at age 22 (I know I didn’t). Living at home gives you a chance to ease that transition into adulthood and gain confidence in a place that’s familiar to you. You can learn to grocery shop, cook something other than pasta and frozen pizza, budget your money, and navigate the job application process. And you can learn all this with your parents as free life coaches!

  1. You’re not bound by leases or timelines

Moving into an apartment usually means you have to sign a lease for a specified amount of time. If you don’t know what you’re doing after graduation, you don’t want to be bound to someone else’s timeline for when you can start a job or move to a new location. Plus, the flexible timeline allows you to move out whenever you’re ready to be on your own, whether that’s a month or two years after you moved home.

  1. You already have connections in your hometown

Going back to your hometown means you can use relationships you already have to get a job. Chances are you have siblings or friends that can get you connected, even if it’s just for a temporary job at McDonalds. These connections also make it easier to adjust socially; you can join a sports team, get a group of old friends together for trivia at a bar once a week, or join a church where you can get plugged in. The phase of life where all your friends live in the same building is ending, and now you have to put more effort into your social life. It’s easier when you’re not starting from scratch. 

  1. Family time

Your relationship with your parents is about to change drastically. You’re growing up and becoming independent, maybe getting married soon, and eventually you might not live in the same city or state as your family. A little more time at home before that transition is precious. It’s also a chance to learn how to communicate with them in a healthy way as adults, because that’s what your relationship is going to look like from now on.

Moving home isn’t for everyone, but it also isn’t as bad as it’s made out to be. It doesn’t mean you failed at growing up, and it doesn’t have to mean your social life is compromised. If you find yourself at home after graduation, take advantage of it; there’s a lot of good to be found there.